“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” Anonymous
Everyone loves being invited to a party! We started having a theme party at our house when the girls were little… The Five-Minute Pity Party! You’re probably thinking you don’t want to attend that one!
It all started the day my oldest daughter came home from school and was mad because Mrs. So-and-So gave an unfair assignment! At least that was her side of the story! I wanted to teach my girls that it’s fine to process, be mad, and grieve situations and circumstances, but then you need to make the choice of what to do and move forward. I wanted them to realize that life doesn’t always go the way we planned, but pouting and complaining wasn’t going to change anything!
So, the first time she came home with a problem, I looked at my watch and said, “Ok, start complaining! Tell me how unfair life is!” I caught her off guard at first, but then she quickly let the words flow! After 2 minutes, she was basically done, but I said, “Keep going- you have 3 more minutes! Come on, keep complaining- there must be more!” Well, that made her laugh and the whole mood changed.
We were able to calmly discuss her situation and talk through her options- one being not do the assignment (she thought I had lost my mind)! We took turns being the student and teacher and practiced how to ask questions in a respectful way.
This became our “5-Minute Pity Party”; it was useful during middleschool, high school, and beyond! I still use it today! Life is sometimes unfair; it’s hard and messy too! So, go ahead, let it out, blow off steam- then pray, list your options, and decide how to move forward. You are invited to the “5-Minute Pity Party”!