It’s been 7 years this Sunday since I said “I do”. I’ll be the first to admit I had no idea what I was saying “I do” to! I’m a child of divorce and so I knew some things not to do. But what to do? Not so much.
This year, our anniversary happens to fall on Easter. As I’ve thought about that, I’ve been even more grateful for Jesus’ sacrifice, love, example of service, and of course His forgiveness. In our marriage, I’m certain that we would not have reached 7 years of marriage to celebrate had I not learned from the Master how to do those things in marriage: to sacrifice, to love, to serve, and to forgive.
I was not easy to be married to in the beginning. I was very unsure of what the promise of marriage really meant and had lots of doubts that you could really love each other until death do us part. I didn’t know how to have an argument. To me I thought an argument meant, we’re done. I was well aware of “until disagreements or irreconcilable differences or even until murder-suicide” do us part but a happily ever after was a tougher example to find.
Then I had a talk with Jesus about all of my concerns, fears, hurts, and doubts. I asked Him how I could love this man with my life when there were no guarantees available for my marriage. How could I trust my husband with my whole heart, sacrifice things I wanted to do so we could both be happy, love him when he was grouchy, and on and on. I had a long list of questions!
Jesus answered me with this. “You don’t put your trust or your life or your faith in your husband or your marriage. You put your trust and your life and your faith in Me. Trust Me to help you in everything. I will never leave you or forsake you.”
“Ahhhh…so that’s how you do it. ” I answered.
So that’s what we attempt to do each day at The Napier House. We do our best to love each other, forgive each other, serve each other, laugh as much as possible, and trust Jesus with all of it. There’s a lot we don’t know but we put our trust in the One who knows everything and gave everything for us.
Thank you Jesus for your example, your love, your forgiveness, and the most amazing sacrifice the world will ever witness. And thank you for these first 7 years with my husband. They’ve been mostly amazing thanks to You.
Leigh Ann Napier
You can find out more about Leigh Ann’s lessons learned in marriage in her book, “Happy Marriage: A Christian Gal’s Guide to a Happy, Life-Long Marriage”