I LOVE being a Mom! It is truly one of the greatest roles God has given me! I even enjoyed changing diapers and wiping up juice spills- it was all part of the journey with my two daughters! Our home was filled with love, laughter, and yes, a few tears. I’ve had the pleasure of watching them grow from the precious pink bundles in my arms to young women who are thriving! So, it was both exciting and difficult when the season came for them to leave home… the possibilities and the endings…
One day your children will leave home for college, mission work, a job, marriage, etc. My prayers and attitudes changed as I began to settle into my new role-Mother of adult children. I became an observer, friend, consultant, and yes, mostly Mom. I learned to embrace this new season. I would be lying if I didn’t say there were challenges, but the girls and I continue to move forward and what a joy and pleasure it is to be able to watch all that God is doing in their lives!
So, as with any new season, you will need to make adjustments and changes. Here are a few ideas that have worked in our household:
*Find a form of communication that works. For my oldest daughter, I sent daily emails when she left for college. At the end of the year, she asked if I was going to send them her sophomore year. I thought she would probably tell me they filled her inbox and could I cut back a bit, but she said she loved them! So, of course, I continued this routine! She had a weekly phone date with her Dad that continued all four years- Fridays at 4 p.m.! Be flexible, we do more texting now- I am open to whatever form of communication works!
*Continue to know the people in their lives. Take their friends out to dinner when you visit their colleges, workplace, or church. Listen for new names and ask questions (but not too many, that’s the trick!) These friends, roommates, and co-workers are now the people that share your child’s world- get to know them!
*Ask how you can specifically pray for your child. I would do this each Monday as my daughters pondered their week. Not only did it keep us spiritually connected, but they would share praises and concerns that may not have come out in conversation.
*Send goodie bags and little surprises on holidays and “just because”. Even though they grow up, they still want to know they are loved! Be sure to include extras for friends.
*Read the same book. This has allowed me to expand my library and given us new and interesting things to discuss!
*Don’t get “stuck” in how and where you celebrate holidays and special occasions! One year we found a restaurant halfway between college and home and shared a wonderful Easter lunch!
Savor the fact that you can now sit back and enjoy your children as adults! One Thanksgiving, I was able to plop in a chair and read while they prepared the meal! Ahhh, it all comes full circle!