Do you have peace in your relationships? You may be a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, coworker, or a combination of several of these roles. One of the ways to nurture your relationships is to seek and create peace and harmony.
This is the third month I’ve been writing about the Fruit of the Spirit; peace is our topic for April. One of the Merriam-Webster Dictionary definitions of peace is “harmony in personal relations”. When you hear, “peace in your relationships”, you probably think it means no fighting with the people in your life. I hope you are able to find effective ways to communicate in your relationships. But, it occurred to me there are other ways to have peace with those closest to you.
One way to create peace in relationships is to be respectful of other people’s time. I was raised that to be early is to be on time. When I meet someone or attend a meeting, I allow time for accidentals like traffic, getting lost, etc. I try to let others know I value their time as much as my own. This creates a peaceful environment for our relationship to flourish.
I also strive to be a good listener…. well, I’m actually working on this! As I’ve gotten older, I think of things I want to say or ask my family and friends as they’re speaking. And, I know it’s likely I’ll forget, so I tend to interrupt… but, I am working on this. I’m working on this because I know that listening shows others I am present. I know how I feel when someone is really listening to me- I feel special, heard, and important. I want to convey that feeling to others; I want to bring peace into our time together.
And while we’re on the subject of being present, I need to bring up the topic of technology. We live in a society of cell phones, laptops, ipads, etc., but I suggest you keep those in your pocket, purse, or car when spending time with family or friends. Before you think I’m being a fuddy-duddy, how do you feel when you’re with someone and they’re obviously not giving you their full attention? Be intentional about being fully present in your relationships.
The last and most important suggestion I have to create peace and harmony in your relationships is to pray. When my oldest daughter transferred high schools, one of the girls in her class didn’t like her. I remember my daughter telling me she was going to pray for her classmate, even though she hadn’t done anything to offend her. My daughter prayed their whole sophomore year and nothing changed. At the start of their junior year, they passed each other in the hall and the girl said hi to my daughter! My daughter could have easily let this relationship go, but she felt led to lift this girl up in daily prayer. Who can you pray for? Allow God to bring peace and harmony in your relationships.
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