As an older Mom, I’d like to pass on some parenting advice to younger Moms. I want to cheer on all the Moms out there who are doing their best every day to do one of the hardest jobs- raising kids!
I remember the day a young mom came to me and said, “Could we meet, I’d like to get some advice from an older, wiser woman.“ I looked over my shoulder- who was she talking about- oh, she meant me! I was definitely older, but wiser? I was just a Mom trying to do my best like the rest of the Moms in the world!
So, here are a few things I’d like to tell younger moms:
- Its ok to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, tired, and like you want a day off; raising kids takes a lot of time and energy! But remember, you only get this one chance- it’s a short season- to spend this amount of time with your child. Identify your needs in this season and look for ways to fill them. Maybe you can swap kids once a week with a friend to have some alone time (go to the grocery store or take a nap!) Ask you family and friends for help when you need it- don’t try to be Super Mom- she only exists in movies!
- Your child won’t graduate from high school in diapers, with a pacifier, and dragging along their “blankie”! Don’t let the comments of others (and everyone has an opinion on these subjects) put pressure on you and ultimately your child about the way you parent. I remember taking away my oldest daughter’s pacifier when she turned 2 and she put in her thumb! She’s now in her 20’s and doesn’t need either! Pray, read, and seek advice on how you want to handle the basics of parenting and don’t let others make you feel guilty! And, remember, plans are meant to be changed; give yourself grace if you change your mind!
- Pick a few important rules and enforce them. Be consistent- if you don’t allow your child to have candy or gum at the grocery, don’t buy it one trip and say no the next time. Your kids will understand that “no” means “no” when you are consistent!
- Have FUN! I felt like I was the mom who planned the activities, held the jackets, and watched. One day I said phooey on this and started playing air hockey. My youngest daughter came over and stood by me in disbelief… Mom plays games?! Yes, I was still the Mom who told them to brush their teeth and practice the piano, but I started intentionally having more fun with my girls! Now they are grow women and the fun continues!
- You are going to have “one of those days” during the course of raising kids-many of them, in fact. I remember when my oldest was 2 years old; I was pregnant and sick, and just walked in the house after a day of substitute teaching. There were cheerios everywhere from counter to floor, laundry piled in heaps, and no dinner in sight! I crunched across the floor to pick up my little girl, took her outside to swing, and allowed myself to breathe. I finally went back inside, swept the floor while my daughter ate cheese toast and grapes, and told myself, “Mama said there’d be days like this”, just as the song says! Just go with it- these can turn into some of your best moments with your kids!
The younger mom I mentioned earlier and I did meet and I realized something- experience is invaluable! I think this is how it should work- older, more mature women sharing with younger women and vice versa! So… any of you you younger women up for helping me understand Pinterest?!