“Do for one what you wish you could do for everyone.”
A few years ago, the iBloom Team came across Andy Stanley’s sermon, “One, Not Everyone.” If the person God is nudging you to serve and invest in is single, I have some suggestions for you.
You see, about five years ago I became a single woman. It wasn’t a role I was eager to take on, but it happened. When my separation and divorce took place, family and friends stepped up to serve me. People invested in ways I didn’t even know I needed. I felt so undeserving of their time and care, yet I needed it so much!
Think of one woman you know who is single and consider doing one or more of the following:
- Include her in your regular, ordinary family activities. One of my favorite things is to have dinner with friends. And, it’s a bonus if they have children at home! I don’t care what’s on the menu – I’m there for the company. If you are single too, consider forming a dinner club or Sunday Brunch Bunch.
- Pick her up and take her to church, a concert or meeting. She will appreciate walking in with someone. Even though I had attended church, weddings, and even traveled alone, for some reason this was much harder as a single woman.
- Send her holiday cards. Make it a point to remember her birthday, Valentine’s Day, and other holidays that come along. Your card may be the only one she receives.
- Share your skills and talents. Are you good at changing the oil in cars or fixing toilets? Better yet, swap skills – your friend will feel better contributing by helping you out.
- Give ”Just Because” gifts. Watch for samples, discounts on flowers and books, or other little goodies you can pick up to give to your friend. And never underestimate the power of a handwritten note. Think of creative ways to let your friend know how special she is!
- Just show up or randomly call. I have a dear friend who would knock on my door and say, “Hey, I noticed you had a light bulb out, so I brought you one.” Or she’d call and ask, “What are you doing for dinner? We’re grilling out, come on over.” Remember, keep asking – your friend may not want to impose or be a bother, but believe me, she is grateful you are thinking about her!
- Pray for her. Do this anonymously or let her know. If your friend recently became single due to death or divorce, she may not even be able to express her prayer concerns… pray anyways.
I challenge you to consider where God may be calling you to invest deep and long. Let us know how you are investing in others or how others have served you in the comment section below.
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Galatians 6:9, NIV