I was stunned. “This can’t be!” I thought. It was like an alarm went off in my brain – a missed opportunity; never again retrievable. Sadness washed over me.
A friend from high school sent me a message on Facebook telling me to go online and look at our hometown newspaper obituaries for that day. A friend of ours from high school had died. Died. I always thought I would run into this friend when I was visiting my hometown but in 40 years that never happened. And I hadn’t made the effort to try to contact them. Now it was too late. Things I would have liked to have said to them would fall silent. I was saddened by the loss of opportunity.
People come in and out of our lives. Of course we can’t possibly keep up with everyone. But there are a few from our past we would like to reconnect with even if just once to let them know they were important to us. Maybe a teacher or someone who took time to care about us. Maybe a friend who we had so much fun with or who we helped through a difficult time.
I resolved to contact some of those people in my life. I worked at Scripps Clinic and Research Foundation in the San Diego area when I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s. I loved that job and the people I worked with. I did some “detective” work and got in touch with some of them who I hadn’t connected with for 30 years. They were thrilled. My first boss from Scripps is actually coming to Kentucky twice this year so she is going to get together with me. Several others are looking forward to my coming to San Diego next fall and we are planning a get together.
This picture shows a group of us who worked together in the Human Resources department having fun one evening. I’m the one with my mouth open wearing an orange shirt (I hate orange… what was I thinking???).
Who do you have something positive to say something to? Who would you like to reconnect with? Keep it all above board – if you are married don’t reconnect with old boyfriends!! But think of friends, teachers, bosses, co-workers – who would you like to see or talk with again? Make it meaningful. It can be so very rewarding.