I have struggled allowing others to serve or help me. I know the root of that is pride and thankfully God has been working with me on this one for years. I have been given the gift of compassion; I see the needs of others and the details that could make their lives better. I enjoy helping where and when I can to make things better for them. But, when it comes to receiving help myself, I don’t want to “bother other people” or, “show I have a need or weakness”. Or at least that is what I would think before I learned that letting others serve you blesses them, too.
Do you allow others to serve you? In one of my favorite sermons, the minister shared that when we don’t allow others to serve us, we rob them of the opportunity of a blessing. Those words helped me look at receiving help from a new perspective. I don’t want to rob anyone of anything and I realized I couldn’t do it all. There would be times when I would need help from other people.
Over the years, I have come to accept and appreciate the help of others, especially during my divorce. During that painful time, I didn’t even know some of the things people did for me behind the scenes. I just know I was able to focus on healing. I am forever grateful for the help and love that was poured into my daughters and me.
5 blessings that come from letting others serve you:
- You get to know people in a deeper way. I have been helping a friend after her surgery by driving her to PT, going to the grocery and running errands she is unable to do alone right now. We have had great conversations about the college years, jobs and all kinds of facts and details we didn’t know about each other before her surgery. We are enjoying the chance to grow our friendship. Don’t allow stubbornness or pride keep you from deepening friendships!
- The giver receives a blessing too. You aren’t the only one blessed when others help you. The giver is filled with joy, satisfaction, and purpose when they are given the chance to serve others. Don’t rob them of being a blessing!
- It may prompt a “pay it forward” response. I love the commercial that shows one person holding the door open for someone. A person nearby in line to buy coffee observes this and decides to pay for the coffee of the customer behind him. And so it goes on! When you’re the recipient, it reminds you to look for the ways and opportunities you can help others. You become more aware of the opportunities to serve someone else.
- It works on your pride. We want to have confidence and feel good about ourselves, but if we’re not careful, we can live our lives as if we don’t need anyone, even God. “Thanks, but I’ve got this!” or, “Thank you, but I have a certain way I like to do such and such.”, may come out of your mouth by habit when others ask if you need help. I remember when I let a friend help me clean and organize my office – it was a disaster! I had to swallow my pride and let her see my mess. She wanted to repay a favor and I wanted to let her receive that blessing. It was hard, but I needed her help. Practice letting go of your pride…it gets easier!
- God is glorified by your act of receiving. In Mark 12:31 we read, “love your neighbor as yourself.” Sometimes you are the giver of love and service and sometimes you are the “neighbor” receiving the act of service. God created us to love Him and to love each other. One of the expressions of love is service. We are commanded to love our neighbor, and that happens when we are in community with one another, graciously accepting help and offering help so that we can be the hands and feet of Jesus.
“There are many people who can do big things, but there are a very few people who will do the small things.” Mother Teresa
Allow others to serve you. Remember you are allowing others to receive a blessing when they serve you. It’s a win-win for everyone!
Let’s talk about it! Share a time when you allowed others to serve you. Was it difficult? Can’t wait to read your comments and keep the conversation going.