Permission to Leave Behind Concerns that are Weighing You Down

As your coach for the day, I’m giving you permission to leave behind concerns that are weighing you down.  It’s time to unload excess “weight’ in the form of optional activities, draining people and limiting behaviors. We make goals. We clean our homes. We schedule events on the calendar. We cut out unhealthy foods – well, at least for the most part. NOW it’s time to leave behind concerns that are unnecessarily weighing you down. Let go. Release. Unleash. Discharge. Liberate yourself. Become freer, lighter, more of the WHO you want to BE.

I hear that tiny voice in your head, “But how? They are commitments. If I do, won’t I be a failure or let people down?” Okay, maybe this will help. I am your Life Coach. I give you permission to let go of situations and people that are unnecessarily weighing you down.

I watched one of my kids lugging around an overstuffed backpack. I was truly concerned for her shoulders and back. She insisted she needed everything in it. She unpacked, we sorted and then left out all the books, notebooks, folders and supplies that were no longer useful or could be placed somewhere else. What a difference it made. It was so freeing, liberating, comfortable. She was able to unload what was weighing her down.

In Philippians 3:13 Paul tells us, “Forgetting the things that are behind and reaching out for the things that are ahead.” As we reach out for what’s ahead of us, we certainly don’t want to be weighed down with those things that will hold us back.

Take inventory. What can you release, let go of, unload?

  1. Drainers: There are people who fill you up and people who drain you. Identify the “drainers” and make minimal contact with them. Of course, there are a few “drainers” we have to interact with, but find a way to improve the relationship or keep it from holding you back. Unload drainers. UPLOAD SUSTAINERS!
  2. Refrain: Eliminate those activities and commitments that are not bringing you joy. Remember, you clean out your closet and sometimes you have to clean out tasks and responsibilities that you are no longer passionate about. Refrain from over-involvement.
  3. Rain: Release your negative outlook! Trade in that “rainy” day for a sunny one!
  4. No-brain: Focus. It’s so easy to get distracted. Sometimes procrastination becomes a monster. Exchange distraction and procrastination for CLARITY and FOCUS for what’s important.
  5. Stains: We all mess up. People and life are messy. “Shout out” the stains of failures, mistakes and misunderstandings. IT’S A NEW DAY!
  6. Vain: Resentment, animosity, bitterness, unforgiveness. These are poisonous; an indication that pride had taken over. Fire them and hire GRACE, PEACE, GOODWILL and FORGIVENESS.
  7. Pain: Ouch! Offense. Disappointment. Broken heart. The hurt can be intense. But they weigh you down. They hold you back. They keep you stuck. Toss them out the window and put on KINDNESS, CONTENTMENT, PRAISE.
  8. Strain: Regret means you are looking back longing for a situation that you have no power over anymore. Remember, Paul reminds us that we are to leave behind things that weigh us down and look ahead to the promises, solutions, and joy that we are assured of. Instead of the strain of regret, choose to turn to the MAIN SOURCE OF LIFE – GOD. His hand is reaching out to you.

Wow! That’s a lot to take in. Choose one area that spoke to you and share in the comments section how you are going to unload it so you aren’t weighed down by it anymore. And remember….iChoose2 Love My Life is a book that can help you unload the old and make positive choices for your life.

Betsy Ringer

Betsy has had a long career that includes training supervisors and managers at a large health care facility, creating new departments in churches and speaking to a wide variety of audiences. Many have discovered their design through her training in Spiritual Gifts, Personality and Passion. She is the speaking specialist at iBloom and uses her many years of experience to mentor other women entrepreneurs. She has jeeped in deserts in Mexico, hiked to remote waterfalls, landed on a glacier in a helicopter, parasailed over whales and went white water rafting in Alaska. Her adventuresome spirit is contagious and you will certainly catch her zest for life.
About Betsy Ringer

Betsy has had a long career that includes training supervisors and managers at a large health care facility, creating new departments in churches and speaking to a wide variety of audiences. Many have discovered their design through her training in Spiritual Gifts, Personality and Passion. She is the speaking specialist at iBloom and uses her many years of experience to mentor other women entrepreneurs. She has jeeped in deserts in Mexico, hiked to remote waterfalls, landed on a glacier in a helicopter, parasailed over whales and went white water rafting in Alaska. Her adventuresome spirit is contagious and you will certainly catch her zest for life.

Comments

  1. Lori Burrell says:

    Betsy,
    This post is amazing! I need you to call me every morning and tell me these things! Oh wait, I can just re-read this blog entry! 🙂
    Today, I am CHOOSING to let go of distractions and let in focus and clarity!
    Thank you for giving me positive, attainable ideas for living a life I love!
    Lori

    • Thanks, Lori. Oh! I have lived all of these so I know how they can weigh us down and keep us from living the way we want to and the way God designed us to. Putting distractions behind us is a tricky one. Beware! We can get distracted from letting go of distractions!! Say often to yourself, “God keeps me focused and gives me clarity.” That will help you tune in to when you start to get distracted and help you make the turn back toward focus and clarity.
      Blessings!!!

  2. This is an eye-opening post. It is amazing all of the “baggage” that we carry with us. This post is a great reminder that we need to let go and let God. Thanks for sharing in such an inspirational way. Take Great Care ~ Robin

    • Hi Robin. Thanks for responding. Yes…I think if we chose one of those a week to tune in to we’d be amazed at how many times it enters our mind, holds us back or gets in the way of something. I want to start 2013 as “light” as I can!! I know you are joining me!!

  3. Valorie M. says:

    My heart and my eyes welled up immediately. Sharing your concern at seeing your daughter weighed down was just the thing to drive it home. I KNOW my heavenly Father looks at me the way I look at my babies from the 9 year-old all the way up to the 19 year-olds!) Yet I stubbornly keep piling those heavy huge books, one after another into my pack in some misguided attempt to control, to do “enough” to… I don’t know what else!
    Anyway I have just discovered the site and am so excited, even if I’m 18 weeks late, THIS IS MY YEAR!)

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