Joy Through Transitions!

“Change is inevitable – except from a vending machine.”  Robert C. Gallagher

My mailbox has been full this month!  I’ve received graduation announcements, wedding invitations, and invites to retirement parties.   In my own life, I have one daughter who just graduated from college and will be starting a new job next month and another daughter who left the working world and will be attending graduate school.

As I pondered these transitions, I realized our lives are constantly changing.  I heard once that “change is the norm”; we are always evolving and in motion.  I know as a Mom, there were seasons of change that I wasn’t prepared for and to be honest, often didn’t want to happen (as if I had control over that!)  But, I am grateful God grabbed my attention while my daughters were young and showed me how amazing each new season was and I could either participate with joy or regret!

Some seasons of change are hard…  like the ending of my 30-year marriage.  Other seasons of change are exciting… I have several relatives and friends expecting babies!  So I guess it really is true, life goes on!   I don’t know about you, but I want my life to move forward with expectation and joy!

So, how do we move through transitions?  As someone who likes to have a list or a plan, I have several things I do when these seasons happen in my own life:

  1. Make a list of 5 things you will miss and 5 things you are looking forward to in this new season. Take the time to process and possibly grieve the season you are leaving so you can totally embrace the season you are entering.
  2. Make a scrapbook or memory box of mementos you want to keep that take you back to this time in your life.  Refer to it when you want to “remember”.
  3. Journal through this process of transition.  It helps to get your thoughts down on paper or the computer.  It’s also helpful to go back and read these entries later.  You will be able to start or add to your own list of ways to move through transitions.
  4. Find scriptures and/or quotes that are healing and uplifting to you.  Write them on note cards and carry in your purse, tape on your bathroom mirror, etc., for constant reference.
  5. Talk to women who have made it to the other side!  One of our greatest resources is each other!
  6. Most of all, pray that God will allow you to fully embrace the changes He brings into your life!

Here’s where I’d like your help and input… I know many of you have great ways of dealing with change and transitions.  Please take a moment to share with us … I’d like to add to my list!

 

 

Lori Burrell

Lori loves encouraging and talking to women of all ages! Her favorite word is “joy” and she loves to help others seek and find it in their own lives. After going through a difficult season, Lori desires that others find hope and peace in trials and hardships. She is grateful that God is allowing her to pursue her passion of coaching women to live a life of no regret!
About Lori Burrell

Lori loves encouraging and talking to women of all ages! Her favorite word is “joy” and she loves to help others seek and find it in their own lives. After going through a difficult season, Lori desires that others find hope and peace in trials and hardships. She is grateful that God is allowing her to pursue her passion of coaching women to live a life of no regret!

Comments

  1. Lori – you gave GREAT suggestions here!! There are a few I need to try out right now!! I have one idea to share. This happened for me fairly recently. It was really one of those times I heard God speak in my spirit. He told me to “remember.” He brought to mind one of my favorite chapters in Deuteronomy 8 where God reminds His people to remember how He helped them in the past. I started thinking about how God had gone before me at times to provide a place to live, a job, a friend. I remembered tough times I had experienced and how He brought me through. So remembering those times allowed me to let go and trust that God will get me through now. So going through change or transition, we can stop and remember how God has gotten us through in the past or how He has provided for us even when we weren’t aware of it. By remembering we can rest in His provisions for us!!

  2. Rene Owens says:

    Thank you Lori for these words! We have to chose joy and hope even in the hard times! I remember after my broken engagement that I spent many nights crying myself to sleep with praise music filling my head. It was the night time that my mind would race but having the praise music going in the room always made it easier for me to focus on God and all the good happening rather than the negative thoughts that kept trying to creep into my mind. Thank you for the list and I will keep adding to it!

    • Oh Rene, I’m sorry you had to go through such pain! I also love to listen to worship music; the lyrics, like scripture, fill my mind with His truths and promises! Thank you for reminding me to add this to my list!

  3. Thank you Lori! I absolutely love this!! You have a way of speaking directly to my heart and sharing advice that is craved and sought after. Many blessings to you my sweet friend!

  4. Lori, I love this post! You are an amazing woman I admire you so much. I will remember that I can “participate with joy or regret.” Such powerful words and yes, we do have a choice! Can’t think of anything to add but would HIGHLY encourage women do the journaling you suggested. It helps us to see our thoughts on paper, get to the heart of what is going on, and then be able to reflect back on God’s constant provision for us even when life seems like it is moving on without us being ready. Thank you so much for this list! I’m putting it in my planner now so I can reference and share with others.

    • Oh LAN, you are so kind! I love when you said, “when life seems like it is moving on without us being ready.” There are times I just don’t feel ready- so grateful God grabs my hand and says, “Let’s do this together!”

  5. Lori,
    This is an amazing post! I really do need to do this! With Little Man getting ready to go to preschool (when I wanted to homeschool him for preschool) and all the chaos in our lives over the last two years, I’m not sure I’ve really processed the transition, I’ve just done it. I think you have reminded me that this is an important step to do ON PURPOSE. Thank you!

    • Oh Tara, I’m so proud of you! You’ve had SO many changes these past 2 years, but I know you desire to move forward with whatever plans God has for you!

  6. Some of the best “fruit” has come from the biggest changes in my life. The suicide death of my late husband, 3 yrs later the death of my oldest brother and since then a aunt and cousin followed. All within 8 yrs.. loss and grief led me thru loss of home, finances, menopause, empty nest, remarriage, moving 4 times, and now a diagnosis of diabetes. Through it all I saturate myself with His holy WORD, praise and worship, bible studys up the wazoo lol and lots of nature walks . My love of photography has went deeper, writing has become NEEDFUL and a garment of PRAISE essential to keep me ALIVE and moving thru the changing landscapes of CHANGE.
    Suffering has changed me into a Isaiah 61:1-3 spirit.
    Wounded yet ALIVE
    Broken into beautiful.
    It all started with TEARS….cry out your CHANGES to him gals. He wont leave you hopeless.

    • Mary, wow! You need to copy and paste this comment into your journal- what a story of using your test(s) for your testimony!! God is going to continue using you in a BIG way to encourage and inspire other women to make it through trials!
      Thank you SO much for being transparent and sharing with us!

  7. Melanie says:

    Lori,

    How do I deal with change or transitions? I call you! Seriously! ….but then you know that. 🙂

    “to participate in joy or regret”…you always know how to go right to the heart of the matter. You are such a role model of a sister in Christ living in Joy; despite whatever circumstance life throws at you. You have taught me to toss out the regret; put on my big girl panties of Joy and make sure I have an attitude of gratitude. Bless you my friend!

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