Which of the following descriptions do you most identify with? Each description conveys the strengths that style might have as a speaker. Read all the descriptions and decide which one or two might be you. Then read the CAUTIONS; explanations of how you might need to adjust so all personalities can “hear” what you are saying. For more information on The Personalities, see our iBloom store for our product “Know Yourself and Understand Others.” https://ibloom.co/store/the-personalities/
Your lively nature inspires your audience and engages them in a fun way. You are warm, cheerful and bond easily with the audience. Your creative flair is entertaining and your stories are both fun and meaningful. You usually wear bright colors.
- The other personalities might see you as phony because they think no one can be that happy. Balance your talk by toning it down sometimes but let your natural joy shine.
- Have someone you admire (with a different personality style) approve your speaking outfit. Listen to their suggestions for tasteful attire.
- Be charming but also show your depth.
The audience sees you as tastefully dressed and serious. You are sensitive to people’s hurts and struggles and want to help them. A Proper Melancholy is organized and attends to each detail as you prepare for your speaking engagement.
- You have good taste in clothes. Dress down a bit for a retreat. Add some color to your outfit – maybe a bright scarf.
- Relax. Loosen up a little. Have a Sanguine help you insert some humor – in a way that fits your style!
- Melancholies are private so be sure to be approachable by being vulnerable – just don’t share all the details. Share only enough to show you are real.
You are usually a leader, a decision maker and used to being in control. You are a visionary and want to make a difference. A Choleric usually speaks with confidence, identifies the problem and gives answers for solving the problem.
- You want to be seen as strong and in control. You MUST show humility and vulnerability or your audience will shut you out.
- Establish yourself as an expert but not a know-it-all.
- Cholerics tend to go straight to the bottom line. Be sure to bring your audience with you step by step. That is painful for you so hire an experienced speaker to help you.
You are easy-going and express natural warmth. You usually are more reluctant to speak in front of a group and your speaking style is casual. You can easily learn the strengths of the other styles, which helps liven your talk.
- Phlegmatics tend to procrastinate. Stick to a preparation schedule.
- Others may see you as wishy-washy. Let your expertise show. Learn how to show some energy to keep your audience with you.
- Get someone to help you dress stylishly. You don’t like to draw attention to yourself but it’s important that you dress like the expert you are.
Identify your speaking style and let your strengths work for you. Accept how others might see you and adjust so they will be able to hear you and act on your expertise.