As a wife and a mom, I consider myself the rudder of the attitude in my home. I can chart the course of attitude in my home in a good way or a bad way. Not that I’m solely responsible for everyone being in a good mood all of the time or that I’m always in a good mood either. That’s expecting perfection and none of us are perfect. But I do believe that God has given me a position of influence in my family and I want to handle that position of influence responsibly.
My Mission Statement as a wife and mom is: “To create a happy, loving, and encouraging environment for my family where we can laugh with each other and at ourselves, have fun together, encourage each member to be their personal best, and cultivate an attitude of gratitude for all of the blessings God has given us.”
I believe that in all of that, attitude is the biggest determining factor for whether our day goes well or doesn’t, whether we achieve our goals or fail, whether we get along as a family or bicker, and whether we enjoy each other’s company or we don’t. Attitude is something we can choose and when we are fully aware of that, we can choose to have a good one and that can make all the difference.
One thing we do in my family when I can see one or more of our attitudes heading south, is my “10 Things Exercise”. It started with me challenging my husband to shift his thinking when I would hear him saying more negative comments than positive (I am the optimist in the relationship and he evens me out with his realist approach). I would say, “Honey, tell me 10 things you’re thankful for in this moment.” He rarely wants to play my game but once he gets going, the wrinkle between his eyebrows relaxes and that amazing smile I fell in love with 10 years ago takes back its rightful position on his face. Attitude is a choice and vocalizing or writing down those things that we are grateful for is a way to improve our attitude instantly.
- Create your own Mission Statement for your role within your home and post it where you will be reminded of it often
- Try the 10 Things Exercise when you or your spouse are experiencing a bad attitude
- Pray that your family will believe they have a choice when it comes to their attitude and that they will choose gratitude over discontentment
- Ask your family to pray for you when you are having a tough time with your attitude. I’ve already trained my 4 year old to pray for Mommy to be the best mommy she can be when she sees that I’m struggling. Just hearing her sweet voice pray for me is usually enough to help me snap out of it and choose a better attitude for the day!
- Post these and other inspiring verses around your home to meditate on and commit to memory:
“Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18
“This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it!” Psalm 118:24
Which of these challenges are you going to begin implementing this week?