It’s been eleven years since I’ve had a child go off to their first day of school. I still remember the story I shared as we had our back-to-school family dinner each year. My daughters dubbed it the “Be A Friend” story….I think of it as passing on friendship.
The “Be A Friend” story goes something like this, “Tomorrow when you arrive at school, look around, there will be someone new. You don’t have to be their best friend, but go up to them and say hi. Ask if they need help finding a classroom or to join you at recess.”
While I shared this story with my daughters through their school years, it applies to us at every age and stage of life. There are women who are lonely and looking for friends. You may have been one of those women, I know I have and I am grateful for the women who stepped forward and passed along their friendships.
Ideas and ways for you to “be a friend” to others:
- Put down your electronics in waiting rooms, at the bus stop or any place where there are people with idle time, just like you. First of all, you’ll realize how many great conversations you are missing by checking email. And secondly, there may be a future friend right in front of you! Use this time to meet new people and hear their stories…choose to use this time differently.
- Look for new women at your gym, Bible study, Book Club or PTA. Introduce yourself and ask them to join you at your table or if they have any questions about their new city. Years ago, I remember a neighbor came over a couple days after the moving van left and gave me a list of three babysitters she highly recommended. This list was not only thoughtful but a lifesaver!
- Greet the new acquaintance you met last week by name…she will feel so special that someone remembered her! There is nothing like someone taking the time to come up to you a second time to make you feel welcomed in your new surroundings. It only takes a minute to change someone’s day!
- You may be in a season of life where you have all the friends you need or can invest in – that’s ok! Think of the word “friendly” instead of “friend”. Every woman you meet doesn’t have to become your best friend, but you can greet new people with kindness and welcome them into your world.
- Spend time in prayer asking God to show you women who may be lonely and seeking a friend. There are women all around you that are caring for aging parents, just went through a divorce, relocated to a new city or became an empty nester and could use someone just like YOU to brighten their day. Be open to new friendships….you both will be winners!
The “Be a Friend” story changed over the years as my girls grew from elementary to high school, but the message was always the same. Look around, be aware of those around you who are looking for a friend…and be the one who passes it on.
Some of these new acquaintances may actually become good friends. For ideas and suggestions on how to nurture your friendships, check out another one of my blogs: https://ibloom.co/blog/how-to-nurture-your-friendships/
Have a story to share? Leave a comment and tell us of a time when someone made your day or of a friendship that was started by giving directions, taking cookies to a new neighbor, or something else. We could all use inspiration for passing friendship on!