Everyone Needs A Friend!

As a former teacher, Youth Leader, and other volunteer roles involving children, I do not like seeing kids left out!  Somehow, no matter what I’m doing, I always spot that one child who doesn’t have anyone to sit with at lunch.  Or the child who stands off to the side while a kickball game is in progress.

I decided the best place to start solving the problem was in my own home.  Every year on the eve of the first day of school, our family would gather for a special meal and discuss the summer and look ahead to new classrooms, teachers, and friends.  And that’s when I had “the talk”!  Not the one you may be thinking about… but the “everyone needs a friend” talk.  I would say to my two daughters, “Tomorrow when you arrive at school, look around, there will be someone new.  You don’t have to be their best friend, but go up to them and say hi.  Ask if they need help finding a room or to join you at recess.”

My daughters were used to these “suggestions” over the years and were always kind and good sports about the many things I asked them to do.  In fact, the phrase, “everyone needs a friend” became kind of a motto at our house.  For example, when reviewing a movie, the girls would say, “Mom, you’d like that one, it’s an ‘everyone has a friend’ kind of movie!”

The three of us are adult women now; we don’t have the “everyone needs a friend” talk anymore.  But I hope we never forget it!  In this day of job transfers, divorces, and moving to take care of aging parents, there are women who need a friend!  There are women at your workplace, in your church, and walking in your neighborhood who are looking for connection with other women!

So, maybe it won’t hurt to say this one more time… “tomorrow you may see someone who is sitting alone at the PTA meeting or soccer practice; or walks in alone to church or Bible study.  Go up to her and say hi. She doesn’t have to become your best friend, but invite her to sit with you.  Everyone needs a friend.”

Lori Burrell

Lori loves encouraging and talking to women of all ages! Her favorite word is “joy” and she loves to help others seek and find it in their own lives. After going through a difficult season, Lori desires that others find hope and peace in trials and hardships. She is grateful that God is allowing her to pursue her passion of coaching women to live a life of no regret!
About Lori Burrell

Lori loves encouraging and talking to women of all ages! Her favorite word is “joy” and she loves to help others seek and find it in their own lives. After going through a difficult season, Lori desires that others find hope and peace in trials and hardships. She is grateful that God is allowing her to pursue her passion of coaching women to live a life of no regret!

Comments

  1. Love what you wrote Lori. In the grand scheme of life it really is touching the lives of others that matters. I want to get beyond myself and see the others around me. It is like practicing happiness, it is training your mind and being aware. What a great place this world would be if we all looked outward instead of inward. Thanks for your message I needed to hear it and be reminded.

  2. Very nicely said Lori. I’ll never forget how I met one of my dearest friends. We worked in the same office and she had relocated from another state. She kept to herself as she didn’t feel she had a lot in common with the rest of us in the office. I would leave newspaper clippings of things she could do for free or minimal cost with her young daughter. I was convinced we’d never connect. I told a friend of mine, “how will I ever relate to this woman, she’s a NASCAR fan.” (Sorry NASCAR fans, LOL) Lo and behold the Indianapolis 500 rolled around and a few friends were getting together that afternoon so the same friend I made the comment to suggested I invite her over. Condensed version–we’ve been friends ever since. She still loves her racing and it doesn’t stop me from loving her.

  3. Betsy Ringer says:

    Friends are indeed jewels. As I get ready to move far away from my present home I realize the only thing I will mourn is the separation from friends I adore so much. I know there will be new friends in San Diego, AND my friends here will remain oh so precious to me.

    One of my dearest friends here I met at our church. I went up to here and introduced myself. She was new – had recently moved here from Kansas. Later, I asked her to go to an art fair with me. When I took her home afterward as she got out of the car she said, “Thank you for inviting me. You are the first person to invite me to anything since we moved here.” That was in October…. and she had moved here in June. We have been very precious friends ever since!

  4. Momma speaks the truth. When you practice this attitude, it’s amazing not only how many people you can reach out to, but also how many people reach out to you.

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