Empty nesters have some of your best years yet ahead of you! It may be a challenging time of transition from the wonderful, crazy world of parenting kids to releasing them into adulthood. It can be a very disorienting time AND a time of letting go and discovering a fresh new way of approaching life. I have great tips to share with you for making your empty nest years some of the best yet!
In Part 1, https://ibloom.co/blog/empty-
- RECONNECTING with your husband and/or yourself
- RECONNECTING with God.
The next two tips are RECONNECT with Friends and COMMUNICATE with Family Members.
- RECONNECT with Friends
Friends are lifelines for women. When we are busy with kids’ activities, work, managing a home, church, volunteering and all the other things that tug at us, our friendships get what’s left over.
Now is the time to rejuvenate long time friendships and cultivate new friendships. Here are some ideas for reconnecting with friends during your empty nest years:
- Identify the people who mean the most to you. At this new stage of life, it’s more important to you to have a few close friends than many friends.
- Schedule time with these valued friends. Yes, get out your calendar. Make phone calls. Schedule several times to get together with different friends. Plan walks. Meet for coffee. Go to a movie. Have them over for breakfast or lunch. Schedule several dates. You are more likely to follow through if the dates are on the calendar!
- Identify people you have recently met that you’d like to get to know. Schedule time with them.
- Get out your recipe books and put together five “go-to” meals that you can pull out when you invite people over! Believe me, you will be more likely to invite people for dinner when you know you don’t have to dig through recipe books to come up with a meal!
- Again…choose some couples or individuals to have for dinner. Pull out one of your go-to meals, go to the store, straighten the house (NO deep cleaning) and enjoy opening your home!
- Get out games that you enjoyed with your family. Enjoy them with adults now! Everyone will laugh and have a great time!
2. COMMUNICATE with Family Members
Our kids are spread out across the country. But I also know people who have all their kids in the same city and rarely get to see them because everyone is “so busy.” You want to communicate even though your adult kids no longer live with you. Here are some tips for empty nesters to communicate REGULARLY with family members to stay in touch:
- Text. Young adults do the majority of communication through texting. Don’t fight it. Dive in. It’s fun. Send just quick little notes and use those fun pictures to add fun!
- Email. One of our iBloom team members sends her adult girls an email EVERY DAY!! Whew! Sometimes it’s short. Sometimes has a funny story of something that happened. Sometimes the girls respond back but not everyday of course. It just keeps them in the know about their mom!
- We LOVE doing FaceTime or Skype with our kids. It’s almost like they are with us. We try for once a week but many times it’s every two or three weeks.
- Facebook page. We have a family Facebook group page. It’s a great place to post pictures, let each other know when we are going out of town or sharing some news. It’s an easy way for all of us to connect with each other.
- Call. I have to admit, none of us is very good about using the phone for actual calling anymore. But that might still be something that you find convenient to use.
- If you live close to your adult kids…plan events with them far enough in advance that they can get it on their calendars! And encourage them to try spur of the moment
The important thing is to stay in touch with each other frequently. Then when you get together you can get into that meaningful time much more easily.
Please leave a comment about how you have reconnected with friends or how you communicate with your adult kids! And watch for Part 3 of this blog series!