I’m not sure at what point after the Honeymoon we find it necessary to schedule ourselves a reminder to date our spouse. Somewhere after unpacking our sandy suitcases and deciding who will be the one responsible enough to pay the bills on time? Or maybe it is when work gets more stressful and the daily grind of life starts making you feel more like business partners than lovers. Well, regardless of where that may have happened for you, don’t feel bad if you have to schedule in your date nights. It happens to the best of us. Oh and if you aren’t there yet, bookmark this post because one day this will happen to you too…
Date nights are so important to your relationship. They remind you why you married your spouse. They get you out of the house. They get you away from work and chores and routines and let you just enjoy each other. They help you get away from the mindset of what your spouse can DO for you and back to why you love BEING with each other.
Many people, especially once kids start coming along, say bye-bye to date nights. They think they’ve outgrown them or they can’t afford them or that they could be doing something more productive with their time than dating their spouse. They couldn’t be further off base.
If you are stressed with work, if children are taking over your home and life, or if money pressures are making you depressed, then you need date nights more than ever! Don’t allow the enemy, your checkbook, your children, or your job to convince you otherwise. Make date nights a priority in your relationship and you will both find that your relationship is refreshed and you will feel reconnected to each other.
If childcare and money are a concern for you, which I know they are for me, consider these suggestions:
- Send the kiddos to the grandparents or extended family for the weekend! You can pack in several dates and sleeping in all in one weekend
- Trade sitter services with a friend
- Share a sitter with a friend or neighbor at one house. You could then do a double date or go your separate ways while usually paying less per hour for the sitter.
- Put the kids to bed early and dare them to come out of their room unless their hair is on fire! Make it movie night or just have a romantic dinner on the patio…just the two of you.
If you need some ideas to you back on the dating wagon, I’ve created a resource that gives you 7 complete dates! Each date has something for you to do together, something to talk about, and something to pray about. Sometimes we just don’t know where to start in getting reconnected and this is a great way to have a “Date Guide” help you out. You can get these dates here: 7 Dates to a Happier Marriage.
Happy Marriage Challenge:
Go on the 7 Dates to a Happier Marriage with your spouse. Then decide going forward to make date night a priority in your marriage. Decide how often you will have your dates and then take turns planning the dates (and arranging childcare if necessary).