Celebrate Marriage, Life, and Even Your Age

Life by design includes celebrating ages, stages and simple joys. What we hope “just happens” most often needs intentional action. Days easily slip away from us. We get so caught up in the minutia of everyday living, what we “think” are the expectations of others and the desire to do everything well. Then there is taking care of all our “stuff” – cleaning it, putting it away, getting it out, buying it, getting rid of it.

So much is screaming for our attention, how do we squeeze in the celebration of life we yearn for? How do we REALLY want to live? I have a theory that if we do what we really want to do, then many of the other things will get crowded out, lose their importance and move to the bottom of our to-do list.

We’ve all made them – LISTS. Lists of those things we dream of experiencing sometime in our lives. We might call it a Bucket List, Dream List or Taking on Life List . Maybe it’s in your mind. Maybe it’s on paper or in your journal. If you don’t have one….it’s time to make one.

My husband and I celebrated our 30th anniversary this year. Can it really be that long? We decided to make our together list: “Thirty Things to Do for Thirty Years of Marriage.” We are giving ourselves a couple years to complete this list but we are well on our way. We’ve already gone to Catalina Island and checked it off. In a few weeks we will visit some friends in Arizona and that will be another one marked off. We checked off joining a small group and learning a new card game. One of the items I put on the list was “Hold my first grand baby.” My husband said, “You can’t control that!” I replied, “No but I can put it on my list!” Well, guess what! We found out that one of our daughter-in-loves is pregnant!

Having this list keeps us intentional about doing things we really want to do. We go on “Field Trips” together. We save for something on our list. We push past a discomfort zone to do something we need a little courage to do. It helps us keep celebration in front of us. We are worth celebrating…LIFE is worth celebrating!
You can do this for your marriage no matter the number. Or your age. Adapt it to your kids and have them make one for their age: “10 Things to Do for 10 Years of Life.” You can do a countdown: “Eight Exciting Experiences for the Last Eight Months of the Year.” The point is to write down – in a fun way – the things you want to experience. Give a date for completion to push yourself a bit.

So right now…get out a piece of paper, name your list and write down a few experiences you are intentional about. Resolve to finish your list this week, then start making “dates” to celebrate life!

Please share in the comment section several experiences that you are looking forward to, to CELEBRATE LIFE!!

 

Betsy Ringer

Betsy has had a long career that includes training supervisors and managers at a large health care facility, creating new departments in churches and speaking to a wide variety of audiences. Many have discovered their design through her training in Spiritual Gifts, Personality and Passion. She is the speaking specialist at iBloom and uses her many years of experience to mentor other women entrepreneurs. She has jeeped in deserts in Mexico, hiked to remote waterfalls, landed on a glacier in a helicopter, parasailed over whales and went white water rafting in Alaska. Her adventuresome spirit is contagious and you will certainly catch her zest for life.
About Betsy Ringer

Betsy has had a long career that includes training supervisors and managers at a large health care facility, creating new departments in churches and speaking to a wide variety of audiences. Many have discovered their design through her training in Spiritual Gifts, Personality and Passion. She is the speaking specialist at iBloom and uses her many years of experience to mentor other women entrepreneurs. She has jeeped in deserts in Mexico, hiked to remote waterfalls, landed on a glacier in a helicopter, parasailed over whales and went white water rafting in Alaska. Her adventuresome spirit is contagious and you will certainly catch her zest for life.

Comments

  1. Lorie Weires says:

    Betsy, I love this. It is so true.

    Often as our kids were growing up, John and I might stop each other and say, “wait, what’s really important to do today?” John’s to do list for the weekend as the kids were growing up would often be:

    1. Help CJ learn to ride bike
    2. Throw softball with Dani
    3. Kick soccer ball around with Alex
    4. Movie night with Lorie
    5. Mow the lawn
    6. Weed eat

    This helped us remember on a daily basis what is really important to get done. The lawn and house would still be here, but the kids sadly grow up. And John stopped saying he got nothing worthwhile done today. If he got the top 4 things checked off, he knew the most important things were done!

    I love the idea of taking this a step further and John and I now writing down what we would like to do in the future, near and far future. What a fun thing to do. We are having so much fun together and enjoying the empty nest. Love that our babies always return, but are LOVING the “us time” we have now at this time in our life journey. We have Wed night dates .. I think this Wed., I will pull out a paper and suggest we make our written “together” list. Fun to actually put in perspective …. in 10 years, what would we like to look back on and say, this is what we did! To know that we loved life, lived life, and celebrated life…. together!!

    I will get back to you once we come up with some things for our list. In the near future, we are looking forward to warmer weather here in Kentucky and spending time on the river in our pontoon boat with our kids and friends. Life doesn’t get much better than surrounding yourself with people you love.

  2. Oh Lorie!!! Thanks so so much for sharing!! Yes…we raised our kids similarly…and look how great they turned out!! Having a big, beautifully decorated home wasn’t important to me…but being a joyous family was!! It was so very difficult when the “empty nest” really hit the year both boys got married! This move has been so very helpful for Rich and I. It has rekindled our closeness and given us some new memories to make. We love having the kids come visit and share the city where Rich and I met! Sounds like you and John are experiencing the same!

    I know your list will be fabulous! I can hardly wait to read it! I love that you have a regular date night. You two are so precious and truly look and act like young newlyweds! You are an inspiration to many! We have so so much to be thankful for with all the marriages crumbling! Thank you, Lord!!

    Your family has been such a blessing to ours! Thanks for being who you are!!

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