#BeWorthFollowing: 7 Marks of a Social Media User You Need To Stay Away From

I came across a pretty debated post on Facebook this past week (which isn’t new, right?). It revolved around an email that was sent out by a business owner asking people to either get off his list (because he was sick of paying his email provider for them) or introduce themselves to him. He stated that he wanted to spend his time with people who were into him as much as he was into them and who wanted to be as rich and smart as the billionaires he had on his podcast.

And as you can imagine, it caused uproar. People began weighing in with their thoughts and they didn’t hold back; and neither did the business owner.

As I read through the post, I didn’t get angry, instead, I was reminded of the importance of what it means to #BeDifferent and #BeWorthFollowing. I was reminded of how different our life, our business, our platforms and our words should be to those we come into contact with. And, I was reminded that as Christ followers, our ultimate goal is not fame, money, or prestige. Instead, our goal is Jesus; a deeper relationship with Him and the sharing of who He is with all we come into contact with.

There should be a BIG difference amongst Christian Entrepreneurs. And if you are stuck trying to figure out whom you should follow and listen to when it comes to social media, there are some specific things you need to look for.

  • They think they know it all: I can’t help but to think of Kelly Clarkson’s song, “Mr. Know It All:”

“Mr. Know It All
Well ya think you know it all
But ya don’t know a thing at all.”

This person thinks they know it all and they believe everyone else is wrong. They refuse to listen to what anyone else has to say. They don’t have a teachable spirit. And this becomes VERY apparent through social media discussions.

“It is pleasant to listen to wise words, but a fool’s speech brings him to ruin. Since he begins with a foolish premise, his conclusion is sheer madness. A fool knows all about the future and tells everyone in detail! But who can really know what is going to happen?” ~ Ecclesiastes 10:12-14

  • Their words tear people down: Sadly this happens and I see it far too often. I have even been the recipient of being called a “name” online; all because I saw something from a different perspective.Looking for someone wise to do business with? Someone wise to follow and learn from? Look at the words that they use. Do they soothe and heal or are they tearing down others?

“Some people like to make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise soothe and heal.” ~Proverbs 12:18

  • They bring out the worst in people, not the best: Someone worth following is someone who brings out the best in others, even when they disagree. If their speech is rude and filled with names and put downs, run from them as far as you can. Eventually, they will do the same to you.

“Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.” ~Colossians 4:6

  • Their words are filled with pride and ego: What’s the giveaway on this one? They consistently talk about themselves and how successful they are. They NEVER lift anyone else up or share about the successes of others. Friends, BEWARE! They may experience success for a season, but I can guarantee you, it will only be for a season.

“First pride, then the crash—the bigger the ego, the harder the fall.” ~Proverbs 16:18

  • They think they are better than everyone else: Once again, it’s all about them. They believe that the world revolves around them and the only thing you will read is about how much they have done and accomplished.

“Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.” ~Romans 12:3

If God has given us a platform, given us influence, we have to be very careful with how we live our lives. People are watching and people are following in our footsteps. People are looking to us as an example. And all of us have influence: in our homes, jobs, community, online, etc.

Being a leader and influencer carries a heavy responsibility and we must never lose sight of this. We must choose on a daily basis to #BeDifferent in all we do and say. Ultimately, we have to #BeWorthFollowing.

“Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.” ~Ephesians 4:29-30

Jen Bennett

Dr. Jen Bennett is the Social Media/Communication Specialist and Project Manager at iBloom. Jen’s passion is helping businesses, ministries and individuals, #BeWorthFollowing. Jen enjoys speaking, training, and writing on all things that inspire and help leaders build a digital footprint and personal brand that is different and that helps them stand out and influence people in a crowded and noisy social media world.

Comments

  1. I have begun to unsubscribe from any email list where the author uses profanity. There are plenty of people to follow and using vulgar language turns me off. For a long time I was simply deleting emails, but unless I unsubscribe there will be another edition.

  2. Last year I finally decided to unfollow someone I had been watching for a long time. Someone who identifies as a Christian and who is hugely popular among her followers. But I began to see a pattern. Every post, every email, was all about her success, her accomplishments and the things she overcame decades ago. Her website is plastered with banners touting where she’s been seen, which TV programs she’s been on, where her articles have been published. Over and over and over again. When she finally came out and said she is an anointed prophet of God it was the final, clear signal I needed to cut ties. A true prophet is all about God, not about themselves.
    I have to admit I’m guilty of posting things, usually comments, that don’t always edify others. My commitment this year is to change that. I have a sticky note beside my computer monitor which says “Is this positive, encouraging, respectful, compassionate and on topic? If not, delete.” Even if I’m just commenting on someone else’s article, I still have influence on the tone of the conversation and need to be mindful of that. Promoting self and our own agenda is not being someone worth following!

  3. LOVE this Susan! And I LOVE your sticky note idea! What a great reminder for all of us as we spend time on social media on a daily basis. And yes, I totally agree, “A true prophet is all about God, not about themselves.” Great words there! Thanks for sharing!

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