I LOVE making new friends! But, to make friends, I need to be a friend. I’d like to share a story of how I tried encouraging being a friend to my two daughters. When they were growing up, each year on the eve of the first day of school, our family would gather for a special meal and discuss the summer and look ahead to new teachers and friends. And that’s when I had “the talk”! Not the one you may be thinking about… but the “everyone needs a friend” talk. I would say to my two daughters, “Tomorrow when you arrive at school, look around, there will be someone new. You don’t have to be their best friend, but go up to them and say hi. Ask if they need help finding a classroom or to join you at recess.” As a former teacher, I don’t like seeing kids left out or sitting alone.
So, how do you reach out to others and make new friends? Here are a few ways I like to nurture new (and old) friendships:
*Surprise your friend with a “just because” gift! Maybe it’s a gift card to her favorite store or restaurant. Or maybe you write a letter telling your friend why she means so much to you and how much you appreciate her!
*I LOVE receiving a good old fashion card in the mail! There is nothing better than walking to my mailbox and opening it up and there is a card from a friend. It takes a little effort and money- but in this day of emails and texts, a card means that you thought your friend was worth it!
*Schedule an activity that you know your friend enjoys. Or help her with a painting project or other big job- these things are so much more fun to do with friends!
*Check in often. It’s easier now more than ever to keep up with your friends with cell phones and internet.
*LISTEN! We all experience seasons of difficulty and pain. Reach out and just be there for your friend- you don’t need to solve all her problems- just be there and listen!
*The most important thing you can do to invest in your friends is to pray. Pray with and for them. I cannot tell you how loved and cared for I have felt when a friend would come over or call me and say, “ may I pray with you?”
My daughters and I are adult women now; we don’t have the “everyone needs a friend” talk anymore. But I hope we never forget it! In this day of job transfers, divorces, and moving, there are women who need a friend! There are women at your workplace, in your church, and walking in your neighborhood who are looking for connection with other women!
This is one of the reasons iBloom decided to host a live event this year! We want you to spend a weekend investing in yourself- we want to inspire and encourage you as you strive to live a life you love! But, we also want to provide a place and space where you can connect and interact with other women….women just like you!
There is still time to purchase your ticket. Join the iBloom Team and women from all over as we celebrate all that God is doing in our lives!
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