3 Simple Questions to Transform Your Marriage

My husband and I are passionate about having a great marriage! So, we make a lot of intentional decisions to invest in one another and our relationship. After a season of feeling a little disconnected from one another, we decided to create an end of the evening routine that would allow us to intentionally connect. It’s nothing complicated, just 3 questions that we ask each other as we get in bed each night.

  1. What was the best part of your day?
  2. How did I make you feel loved today?
  3. What can I do better? (this is specific to our marriage/family)

It’s just 3 simple questions that are having a powerful impact on our marriage. It’s amazing how much more connected we feel because we’re having this intentional time to connect each night.

We landed on these questions after hearing about several other couples end of the evening routines. Thank you Gail & Michael Hyatt and Tao Jiang & Shasha YU for inspiring us through your questions.

Do you have an end of the evening routine that allows you to connect with your spouse? If so, please leave a comment below because I’d love to know about it!

If you don’t have one, try these 3 questions and see how it impacts your relationship!

Kelly Thorne Gore

Kelly is the Founder & President of iBloom. She's passionate about empowering women to live their best life and fulfill God's plan for their life!


  1. Thanks for sharing, Kelly. Definitely worth thinking on. How did you and your husband come up with these particular three questions?

    • Hi Laura! We took ideas from our friends. We initially tried their questions, then we tweaked until we found these 3 questions that we felt like really allowed us to connect well each day.

  2. Hi Kelly
    My boyfriend and I do two short prayers that ask us how we behaved today; were we outside ourselves; were we outside our own ego and we ask how we can make things better for each other the next day with a simple – what can I do to make things easier/better/more peaceful for him or he for me

  3. Elise Daly Parker says:

    Just love these questions! This really simplifies and makes doable a powerful check-in and connection.

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