“Be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” Nora Ephron
Have you ever thought of your life as a movie? What would the theme be? Who would play the role of your life? What would be the outstanding scenes? Few of us view our lives as exceptional enough to be portrayed as a movie. But when you think about it, characters in movies, plays and books are ordinary people experiencing this wonderful thing called life. We get the privilege of getting to know the “characters” and identifying with their stories.
Nora Ephron was a filmmaker, author, screenwriter, director and producer. Some of her most popular movies include Sleepless in Seattle, You’ve Got Mail, Julie and Julia, and When Harry Met Sally. Nora died last week at the age of 71 and that has prompted me to think of some of these lovely movies. I watch You’ve Got Mail….well…more than I care to admit. Kathleen Kelly, played by Meg Ryan, is enchanting. She is an everyday girl we can all relate to. Meg also plays Annie Reed in Sleepless in Seattle. Okay…I could go on and on about the characters. But you get the point. They were everyday women but each had personality, curiosity and a desire to embrace life.
So back to this Nora Ephron quote… “Be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” That says so so much. Embrace who you are. Your story. What you have to contribute. Your ability to love and encourage. Your joy. If you are focusing on what you are NOT…shift your perspective and focus on what you ARE!!
In another favorite movie of mine, The Holiday, the main characters exchange homes during the Christmas season – one goes to L.A. and the other to England. Iris, who finds herself in bustling L.A., drastically different from her quiet English town, befriends an elderly, former movie director, Arthur, who lives next door. When she shares that she is trying to forget the man she was madly in love with but who is now engaged to someone else, Arthur says, “Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend.” He then gives her a list of movies so she can see how leading ladies behave – hoping she’ll develop some gumption, courage, and value for who she is.
As she watches the movies and the women becoming the “leading lady,” the “heroine” of their lives, Iris learns how to take action and she develops the gumption, courage and value needed to truly LIVE her life!
Look deep within your spirit. You are valuable, a treasure, and have a contribution to make to the people around you as well as a legacy to leave. You may know it now or you may be unaware, but you are significant and have a purpose. You are a work in progress. Be the leading lady of your life. Be the heroine. Live joyfully.
Please share in the comment section about a favorite character who inspires you to live more fully.