Empty Nesters: How to Enjoy Some of Your Best Years Yet! (Part One)

Empty-Nesters--How-to-Enjoy-Some-of-Your-Best-Years-Yet!Yes, as an empty nester some of your best years yet are ahead of you! Sometimes challenging, it’s a time of transition from having kids as front and center in your life to releasing them to enter their adult lives. It can be a very disorienting time; a time of letting go and discovering a fresh new way of approaching life. During this blog series, I will share 10 tips for making your empty nest years some of the best yet!



1.    Reconnect with your husband or yourself.

If you are married, this is a time for you and your husband to rediscover your relationship. Use the following ideas to connect with your husband again. Use this list to generate your own ideas.

  • Many couples decide to move to a new city. Of course jobs have to be considered but many times couples are ready to try something new or take on a new position.
  • In the book The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work, by Dr. John M. Gottman, there are many questions that you and your husband can ask each other that will rekindle those old feelings.
  • Take “field trips.” Plan one or two day trips to visit cities or sights in your area. Explore a city you rarely go to. Go to a botanical garden, zoo, new shopping area or a concert in a different city.
  • Make a list of restaurants you’d like to try. It’s fun to eat at the counter, on the patio or go when there is music.
  • Do a devotional together. One I suggest is A Couple’s Journey with God, by Pam and Bill Farrell.


If you aren’t married, this is a time for you to rediscover what makes you YOU! Yes…even if you are married you can do these suggestions.

  • Be sure to cook healthy, yummy meals for yourself. Set the table with pretty placemats and flowers. You’re worth it.
  • Think back to when you were a little girl, a teenager or young adult. What were you interested in then? Artwork? Painting? Concerts? Did you play the flute or piano? Did you write poetry? Did you like to poke around at flea markets? Make a list and try several of those past interests again.
  • Start a gratitude journal. Every day write down five things you are grateful for.
  • Make a list of how you like to pamper yourself and do some of them!! Manicures? Massage? Dancing in the living room? Trying a new recipe? Shop for a new lipstick? Take a luxurious bath?

2. Reconnect with God

God most certainly wants your empty nest years to be some of your best!

  • Take time to praise Him and simply listen to Him.
  • Surrender this time of life to Him and ask for His guidance. Then listen for it. Keep a journal or keep a tablet next to your computer and jot down how He answers you.
  • Get a group of women together to pray, talk study a book of the Bible or a Christian book.
  • Trust Him with this new time of life.

Practice these tips and make your empty nest years some of the best yet. Then watch for Part 2 of this blog series for the next two tips.  There will be five parts to this series, pack with lots of ideas for successful living as you transition into the empty nest years.

Please leave a comment about how you are making the empty nest years some of your best! OR…a step you plan to take from my lists above!

About Betsy Ringer

Betsy has had a long career that includes training supervisors and managers at a large health care facility, creating new departments in churches and speaking to a wide variety of audiences. Many have discovered their design through her training in Spiritual Gifts, Personality and Passion. She is the speaking specialist at iBloom and uses her many years of experience to mentor other women entrepreneurs. She has jeeped in deserts in Mexico, hiked to remote waterfalls, landed on a glacier in a helicopter, parasailed over whales and went white water rafting in Alaska. Her adventuresome spirit is contagious and you will certainly catch her zest for life.

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